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Comment on Overcoming Fear of Childbirth by Pat

Pat — Tue, 12 Mar 2013 14:49:43 +0000

I have always been terrified of giving birth. All the men I have met wanted to have children with me. I know that I am very attractive and intelligent and thus have good genes. Having good genes does bug me because I know that my kids are likely to have good attributes. However, I just cannot go through the process of giving birth. Everything about childbirth and pregnancy terrifies me- the pain, the unpredictability of certain events and the process of carrying a child for nine months. My relationships have suffered as a result of this fear.

Comment on Mirena by Linda Mittal

Linda Mittal — Sat, 09 Mar 2013 14:46:29 +0000

Hello,
I have mirena put on in Nov 2012 and in Jan 2013 I start having a pain in one finger…days later my arm….days later I start feeling my hand num……days later the pain whent to ma neck… and now I feel the pain all over my arm and neck!!! something I feel that the blod is not going to may hand…..i’m so scare!! I think I have a blod clot I been very healthy person and now several times I feel that i’m going to pas out (so weir) I whent to the doctor and i’m waiting for the test appointment but i’m getting very anxius and I want to take this mirena out….I hope my life go back to normal Sorry my english is not very good.

Comment on The Home Birth Experience: The First Birth is HERstory by Birth Regrets? | Talk Birth

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Comment on Mirena by Jessica Norris

Jessica Norris — Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:38:38 +0000

Oh wow. My story is so very similar to yours and I am sad to read this. I am wondering where to go with this new information. I have had 3 seizures in the last 6 months with no history of family history of seizures and I have had the Mirena since Feb 2008. It will be removed this Friday. I wish to get in contact with people with similar stories, band together, whatever needs to happen to get the word out there that this is a REAL side effect for the Mirena in my opinion.

Best wishes,
Jessica Norris

Comment on Overcoming Fear of Childbirth by saoirsewoman

saoirsewoman — Thu, 28 Feb 2013 00:06:17 +0000

I don’t think we can discuss tokophobia without mentioning the word, “patriarchy”. I was appalled by the treatment of birthing women i saw as a student nurse. I decided i would never ever let anyone speak to me or treat me that way, and it drove me to have 4 homebirths. I have supported enough women to know that homebirth too can be pretty challenging (sometimes) and even traumatic (sometimes) but it’s a thousand times less traumatic than most hospital births (most of the time). We have a patriarchal obstetric system that has destroyed midwifery and normal birth in the name of profit, and this is causing increasing birth trauma. I spoke with a pharcacologist who had to witness a birth as a student. She was so appalled that when she becamse pregnant, she opted for an elective c.s under GA. That is terrible. CS and GA both have serious risks and are part of why the MMR is rising in USA. But after seeing the treatment of women in most hospitals, I can understand exactly where she is coming from. There is the fear of actual birth itself and then there is the fear of bastardized birth, when what *can* be a wonderful, blessed and empowering peak experience in a woman’s life becomes a traumatic nightmare, because of a broken system that is destroying women and rubbishing women’s wisdom. I think that differentiating between the fear of an anti-woman birthing industry that is systematically abusing women – fear of obstetric abuse – and fear of birth itself, is important in the discussion.

Comment on Independent Birth Centers by Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 10 Feb 2013 06:16:20 +0000

Is there anything in Wyoming near Cody or Montana in billings?

Any insight would be great!

Thank you, Jessica

Comment on Overcoming Fear of Childbirth by Tamar Harrington

Tamar Harrington — Fri, 11 Jan 2013 21:33:04 +0000

I’ve felt the same way you do for a long time. I can’t trace my fear of childbirth to anything in particular; as far back as I can remember it has seemed terrifying and agonizing to me. Pregnancy, as well, seemed really gross. (Have you ever seen those videos of pregnant bellies bulging and shaking with fetal movements?) And I always thought, “There are so many children in the world who need parents, why can’t I just adopt?” But the only man I’ve ever loved is adamant that he must have biological children, and I am beginning to think that my community will make me feel guilty all my life if I get married and choose not to bear children.

I have read a lot about epidurals, hypnosis for childbirth, water birth, etc. but it doesn’t seem to change the way I feel about this at all. I have talked to counselors about the fear and disgust. They don’t seem to understand or to have much help to offer. It seems so unfair to me that women have to endure this and men don’t have to give it any thought at all. It makes me angry that my boyfriend expects me to go through it just for him. I’m afraid I will die alone because I cannot seem to get past this fear.

Comment on Overcoming Fear of Childbirth by Tamar Harrington

Tamar Harrington — Fri, 11 Jan 2013 20:59:21 +0000

Isn’t abortion pretty violent and disgusting as well? I don’t think they usually give general anesthesia for that…

Comment on Overcoming Fear of Childbirth by Paige

Paige — Sun, 06 Jan 2013 08:42:29 +0000

I was thrilled to find this post and especially to read some of these comments with women much like myself! I will NOT go through childbirth, being ripped, split and torn open during the birth and then the aftermath is almost as terrible, going to the bathroom is torture and bleeding for six weeks, especially the first couple of weeks when the blood flow is outrageous and horribly painful. I LOVE children, they are the light of my life, I’m in college and about to be a teacher for goodness sake, but a long, long, long time ago when I was just 14 or 15 I decided that I would adopt. The idea of raising a child who does not look like me or my husband is amazingly more appealing to me than the idea of a biological child who would look like me. I do wish my family and friends would be more supportive, my mother actually asked me how in the world had she raised a daughter who would want “A child who doesn’t look like her and who she couldn’t possibly love as much as a biological child.” It revolts me when people tell me I will NEVER love an adopted child as much as a biological child. And of couse my “Favorite” line is “Oh you’ll change your mind one day.” Yes, of course I’m going to change my mind about having a part of my body ripped and torn open. I admire the women that go through childbirth, I think you are the bravest people on this Earth, but it just is NOT for me. I do wish some people would get that, I truly believe God puts people like me on this earth to adopt the children that need loving and stable homes just as much as any biological child does. I just wish people wouldn’t look at you like you are an alien when you explain your choices. Honestly it’s the 21st Century, it’s a woman’s choice what she does with her own body and there are so many options for women who do not want to go through the pain of pregnancy and childbirth, for those brave enough to go through the pregnancy (Which I am not) you always have the C-Section and for those who are more like me, you have adoption and if you have the resources even surrogacy! I just wish people would be more understanding towards those of us who have chosen this route ….

Comment on Mirena by Dreamor Tierce

Dreamor Tierce — Sat, 03 Nov 2012 00:02:16 +0000

I had the mirena in for 10 months and got pregnant right after the removal. While pregnant I had a massive blood clot in my brain that burst and almost died. I now also have epilesy and have to take medicine. I wish you all the best!