As a group whose every day bears witness to the entry into this world of many a newborn we enjoy hearing women’s descriptions of all things birth. We tend to cringe hearing harsh language surrounding birth. An irritable uterus? What is that, a belly with angry eyes???
I remember Laura describing her daughter’s entry into the world as one where her cord was “creatively wrapped.” What a difference it makes to view each birth with wonder, not as a risk. I believe it is in the documentary by Patchwork Films called “Born In The USA” where Dr. Joanne Armstrong admits hospitals have low tolerance for viewing laboring women as anything but risk.
We spent a good portion of last year bringing awareness to the misleading presentations on technology in birth. We will continue to do so as new “turf battles” with ACOG arise, but it’s time now to see the beauty of labor and birth as it really exists. I know many believe “orgasmic birth an old midwive’s tale” or simply too extreme a description for what is otherwise only a reverential experience. I have to smile to myself and just state the obvious: birth is personal and some take their personal view as the only view and are taken aback when their view isn’t just like someone else’s is. Perhaps that’s why Ms. Moore fails to mention that Orgasmic Birth also contains the story of a mother who labored and labored and labored. It wasn’t orgasmic in the sexual sense. It was sexual as in liberating. Had this woman labored in a hospital she would have been sectioned. The only real point of discussion is that whether or not any of us feels she should have been sectioned is a matter of personal choice. And that’s what we here at Independent Childbirth see as the reason why globally maternal care is so faulty: it does not have choice at the foundation.
Birth is. Period. That’s the true beautiful secret of birth. Each birth is unique as well as being unique to the mother at that moment in time. When she first birthed she was not the same woman that she is giving birth the following year or years later. She is not the same woman giving birth two, three, four births later. None of those babies are the same as the ones before.
When women fail to honor the different choices we each make we tear each other down. Why else are the mommy wars the fodder of many a journalistic piece? It makes for entertainment: judging each other for the decision to breastfeed even when it means dealing with people who cannot see breasts as anything other than sexual; judging each other for a mom who wants to both be a mother and have a successful career.
We need more appreciation for the turtle women. Yes, turtle women. There are turtle women specific to the birth world but I think turtle women abound in all aspects of our life. They are the women who support, not criticize, our choices. It does not mean they agree with every choice we make. It does mean that they are wise enough to recognize the value of stirring every woman to think about her choices, why she made them and most importantly be confident in her own wisdom to adjust or make different choices because she has learned something new.
“Orgasmic Birth” is scheduled to be reviewed in a segment by ABC’s 20/20 tonight at long last. Unfortunately it may be viewed as a part of a theme called “extreme mothering.” Today’s journalism just isn’t journalism unless it’s sensationalist. Sigh.
No matter. Turtle women all the way down … enjoy!